When children are young, the one common question that all parents ask them is, “what do you want to be when you grow up?”.As parents and teachers there are some strategies that we can take up to make sure that the children are less anxious and share their concerns with us so that we can sit together with them to solve their challenges.
When children are young, the one common question that all parents ask them is, “what do you want to be when you grow up?”. The answers that they give might be “I want to be like dad”, I want to be like mom” or “I want to be Superman”. As children grow up their idea of a bright future becomes more concrete, and they get the option to choose a career path for themselves.
In India this crucial decision- making time can be both exciting and stressful for the child and their parents as well. As children enter their senior secondary classes in school, it is an important decision that they must make to choose their subjects. which help determine their future career. Therefore, it becomes a very crucial decision that the subjects they choose be of their interest and aptitude.
Many schools today, all over India, conduct Aptitude and Interest Assessment Tests that provide guidance to the children when choosing a career path. As parents and teachers there are some strategies that we can take up to make sure that the children are less anxious and share their concerns with us so that we can sit together with them to solve their challenges.
Ask open-ended questions to your teens like 'what do you think about your future?’, “do you have any plans about your future”. Let them come up with their answers and understand their viewpoint before you begin to guide them.
Come up with scenarios and let your child imagine how they see themselves few years down the line and help them prepare for a bright future. This imaginative thinking forms a basis for the teen to set a future goal for themselves in case they do not have one.
Encourage them to use the internet to gain information about different career options that are available. Explore their interest with them and make sure you provide them with a financially suitable and practical option. If you think a career option might not be suitable for your teen, then reason with them and try to explain to them your viewpoint.
World can be a very harsh place and sometimes they might not get what they want. At an anxious time like this be their support system and give them words of encouragement. Tell them that they don't have to feel intimidated about their future. Provide them with tools to help them manage their emotions>.
if your teen makes a mistake in choosing their appropriate career option then give them the opportunity to learn from the experience rather than shame them for it. Tell them that this is not the end, and they can always try again.
There are, of course, many elements that will decide the course your child takes when they depart the nest. We can't manage everything, however, we should never underestimate the fact that they always look up to us as role models and as that it’s important for us, as parents to always make sure we’re there for them.